If you are having trouble with your married life and you believe that the problem is at the other end of the relationship then you definitely need to figure a way out. There is nothing more miserable than having a cheating spouse. In order to know if you have a cheating spouse you need to do some things, that too, very smartly so that you get to the bottom of your cheating spouse’s mystery life. This however does not mean that you have to turn into a detective as that can strongly affect your married life too.
The first thing you need to keep in mind is that you have to make “sure” that you have doubts about your cheating spouse because if you start predicting stuff that your spouse is not even doing, then things can definitely work out in a really bad way for you. Once you are certain about the fact that you have a cheating spouse, he or she is hiding something from you, only then you might want to predict further stuff about your cheating spouse. Marriage is a very delicate bond and predicting a cheating spouse can be really hard too.
If your partner is going out a lot more than usual then definitely the alarm bells should ring in your ears. A cheating spouse often finds it hard to stay at home as it becomes really hard for him/her to manage both the lives together. A lie can be caught quite easily in a marriage but make sure you do not go overboard with the suspicion. You can start off by asking questions about your cheating spouse’s where abouts. If he/she does not look you in the eye the cheating spouse is bound to be keeping something from you.
If you gather from your partner’s behavior that he or she is asking for an increased amount of privacy in the name of “personal space” then you need to clear up your mind that they are telling a lie and there is no such important thing as personal space. Too many phone calls, especially at night can lead to a lot of suspicion too. What you can do to gain your cheating spouse’s confidence in the first place is to make your cheating spouse sit and tell you everything. Give him/her the liberty to be honest with you.
If the cheating spouse admits what he/she has been doing you do not necessarily have to jump off the sofa and go storming out of the door. Sit and talk about whatever your cheating spouse has to say about the extra marital affair. You both can decide what to do next as it is a very sensitive matter for you, your cheating spouse and both your families.